I am supporting some dear friends as they support a mutual friend through her final days. One of these friends asked me how I had done this for my parents. How I had found the strength to do it twice. The simple answer is that we have no choice.

We all have the strength within us. Women are incredible beings and when we have no choice we will find the strength. I remember feeling like a vice had gripped me, when both my parents were terminally ill. Feeling like I was being squeezed tighter than I could cope with, and knowing that it would get much much worse. But I managed. I learned that you can face the thing you fear the most and survive.

We are strong because we have to be strong. Women are nurturers and protectors. We defend our young, our old and our loved ones.

In these days I am handing out oils like there is no tomorrow. Because I know the support these amazing vials of goodness can give during times of incredible stress and strain. I was new to natural health and the oils when my parents were ill. My mother introduced us to the oils when she herself was terminally ill. I used plant medicine for emotional support mostly in the early days. I would wake in the morning after a night of fitful sleep and wonder how I would get through the day. I would get up out of bed and use 4 oils every single day first thing in the morning. It was like I could feel my soul sigh with relief when the oils were on. I could breathe deeply and face the day.

Of course there were other things that helped me too. But an abiding memory of the time was the emotional strength essential oils gave me. This is what I used….

Firstly there would be Balance under the soles of my feet:

Balance: Grounding Blend( Oil of grounding): a blend of mainly tree and root oils such as Spruce, Ho wood and Frankincense which means this oil grounds and connects. This oil helps us stay focused and balanced during times of stress.

Then I used Elevation on my tummy:

Elevation: Joyful Blend (Oil of Joy): this blend was formulated as an antidepressant and contains powerful mood stabilisers such as Sandalwood, Rose, Jasmine, Ylang Ylang combined with joy filled oils such as Tangerine, Melissa and Lemon Myrtle. This blend soothes the heart and balances the emotions.

After Elevation I rubbed Serenity over my heart:

Serenity: Calming Blend (Oil of Forgiveness): this blend has a powerful effect on the heart. When things happen in life to us or or loved ones, that are unjust, cruel and unfair, this oils helps us to come to terms with the fact that this is life. It calms high emotions and soothes the anger we feel at how unjust life can be to those we hold dear. Times of illness, particularly towards the end, are incredibly stressful for everyone who loves the patient. Emotions are heightened as we all struggle to come to terms with what is happening- this oil helps us move through this time with grace.

And finally I used Citrus Bliss on the back of my neck:

Citrus Bliss: Invigorating Blend (Oil of Creativity): this is an amazing uplifting blend of citrus oils including Wild Orange, Lemon, Grapefruit, Bergamot and Mandarin. These oils help to lift us up and over our circumstances helping us see that life can be good and joyful.

These 4 oils are called the “Mood Matrix” and are powerful emotion supporters. Grief and loss is a journey with huge highs and very deep lows. In my experience you have to let go and allow the process to happen emotionally. These amazing oils make that journey just a little easier.